Human creations - The Three “T” (Extracted from my up coming new book)

Call it a theory or even a philosophy, I believe it is worth the sharing. This topic had come across my mind for quite sometime and I finally putting into words. For those who often join me for my “sharing session” probably already have a clue and for those who are still “a deer with no eye”, you are most welcome to read and comment on this.

There are tons of human creations out there and I had chosen the three “T” which stands for Time, trends and traditions. Why them? No special reasons but they sounds catchy and very much debatable.

Let’s start with – Time

What is the first thing that pops up in your mind when I ask you what on earth is TIME? a clock? a bunch of numbers that sums up your life time? perhaps your age? Well, to me, time does not exist! I know it sounds absurd but do let me explain.

Thanks to our beloved ancestor who creates symbols that looks like: “I II III IV V”. Yup, human discovered how to count via NUMBERS. From then till now, human calculates everything from branches on a tree to cells in human body. Somewhere between there, along came a thing we call TIME. If I were to remove numbers in this very vortex, do you think time still exist?

As we grow up, we see more and more numbers. Don’t get too exited now, I’m not talking about Lotto numbers. What do they really mean to you? I know they keep you organize at some point but what are they? What do I think about them? Simple, they are just bunch of limitations and barriers. Again do let me emphasize that I had not lost my mind and do let me point out.

We are being “counted” since we are proven alive in our mommy’s tummy (no matter it was a planned birth or accident, you are being counted). In the next coming years, we learned how to count and so we started counting down our life.

From the ancient to the very current, scientist have come out with tons of statistics, we have accurate data that safe lives and predictions that barely just rough calculations. Let’s come back to our topic – Time. We all knows that time came from the calculation of earth spinning it-self a full round equals a day and from there, divide further to get hours, minutes and seconds.

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to tell you how does the average age statistic works, for your convenience, they even split out by gender (how kind of them). This is when my first limitation example comes in. If you were to follow the timing prediction by scientist, you are actually giving direct orders to your body that it must grow on specific calculated years and deceased in the so called average years.

Please bear in mind that your body listens only to the sole master – YOU!

No doctor in this world can tell you exactly how your brain works, but they can brain wash you with tons of theories and statistics. When you start to believe, trust me, you are in deep trouble. Please respect the intelligence of your body as it is much more complex and advance then you think.

You want science? I give you science. Remember the chicken story? It was well tested by switching the lights off and on every six hours to replace the original twelve hours sun light, it actually deceives the chickens and guess what, their grow-up speed was doubled. Just in case chickens are not convincing enough, try do a simple test, try ask everyone around you their sleeping hours per day. Doctor suggested an eight hours sleep for a full grown adult, but how many of us actually need to “charge” 6 - 8 hours per-day? (I only sleep 4-5 hours per-day and it last me for at least 16 hours)

The most unfair thing that ever happened by following time is – it creates stupidity. Again, do let me explain.

Everyone’s brain is different, some fast, some not so fast. Sadly we were not accessed by brain speed but time. We were forced to follow the set time to do certain things like education, work and even retirement. All thanks to the person (god knows who’s brilliance idea) who came out with statistics suggesting we should for example get in to primary at age seven and retired at the age of fifty five. They even tell you when to get pregnant.

Imagine this, if my brain works slower or requires longer period for maturity, I ultimately can’t coup with the so called “average” time you set. I was then tag “stupid” and kick to the last class, that already changes my future. Let’s say I survive education and start working, what happened when I needed longer time to learn up task? Yup, I was fired. As my age catches up, I was force to retired at fifty five. That is like forcing an “average” person in to early retirement. The above mentioned example can go vice versa (that is even worst – stopping a genius to develop – Ouch!).

Get my point of view? Still think time exist and willing to calculate your-self to your last breath?

(the conclusion written is for all three “T”, it will not be posted now)

Written By: Arthur Ng

同事兼情侣 (summarised for a friend)

很多人都口口声声反对在自己上班的地方谈恋爱但又偏偏让它发生了。其实这状况是常见的。原因很简单，我们平均一个星期里花了四十个小时再上班，扣除了睡眠和周末，我们大部分醒着的时间都花再办公室。日见相对下擦出感情有什么稀奇？一般打工人士见同事比见家人和朋友的时间是还要长的，这是因放工回家后只剩下区区那几个“醒着”的小时。在这情况下，试问又有多少时间好让你在办公室以外认识或结交伴侣。算一算吧。

大多数的上司都反对下属这样做但却无法阻止。一谈到这话题，上司们都会有同样的想法：1）影响工作表现和效率， 2）两人同伙搞反派。当然也有些上司是不反对的，但是却没有一个会鼓励。说真的，有多少人能公私分明或顾全双方利益。是很难怪上司们有这种负面的看法。

以下是一般人搞办公室恋情所面对的优点和缺点：

优点 – 如以上所提到，在一起上班能加长见面的时间，感情里多了更多了解。这是因为两人一起面对私事之余也一同解决公事。一起经历上班的一切也能让彼此拥有一定的安全感（甚至更能专心干活）。一起上班的情侣一定会一同上路（开车或搭公车）和一同用餐，这不但省钱，其实还挺浪漫的 (^.^) 。这样一来伴侣可以更加深入了解自己并与其分享一切。挺好的，挺好的。

缺点 – 也如以上所提的，一旦被上司发现就会出现状况。上司不看好之余还有可能会惹到身边的同事眼红或“远离”。一起上班也有可能会导致更多压力，没信心者往往都会怕自己在对方眼里表现不够好而情绪紧张。试问这样的情况下又怎能舒舒服服的工作呢 (>.<) 。下一个论点（也就是你一早想到的）非它莫属，对了！就是少了很多自由或私人空间。一起经历多了也等于更加了解了也等于更多话题可吵了。当然还有很多缺点如：一人错两人担，情人变成业绩对手等等。。。

小弟的看法？。。。

两个人有了感觉并谈恋爱是不受一切（环境，时间等等）压制的。更何况现在所说到的是办公室而已，有什么大不了！我本人不会反对也不会支持，因为最终的要点还是回到两个人对感情的处理方式。有心在一起的话，以上所提到的缺点更本就不成立，相反的，一开始就不看好，优点随时变成了缺点。到了最后通通都是借口。若是真的不幸惨遭毒手，可以选择转公司。只要有心，万事都是可以处理的。

分手留给男人说

说到分手这每一个人都不想谈的话题时，无论你是男或女，是不是看到了一个坏男人的画面？那是真常的，毕竟数千年来都是男辜负女的多于女辜负男。其实什么是分手？告诉对方不爱了就能真正结束一段感情吗？曾听某些人所过分手很简单，好比家常便饭；也听过朋友分手时有多痛苦，就像电视剧里闹生闹死般。什么是分手？我的解释是：了结一段感情并推翻当年的山盟海誓，然后把一切变成一段收在脑里某个角落的回忆。

提出分手者有罪吗？在这个可悲的亚洲里，无论国家多么先进发达，亚洲人的思想还是古老落后的。更可悲的是我们还引以为荣。我们已经把分手看成抛弃，无论是男方还是女方，只要是提出分手就戴上了有如抛妻弃子的“罪名”。不被看好不要紧，还要被众人辱骂。本来是两个人的事情，搞不好变成了两个世界的问题。莫名其妙！！！放下这套思想仔细想想，其实提出分手是没有罪的。不爱了放手好比不爱了还要死死纠缠好吧。很多人不敢提出分手是怕对方受伤害，也怕对方承受不起做傻事。倒过来想想，到头来不是再制造更大的伤害吗？反而我本人觉得阻止对方预见更好的伴侣才是罪大恶极。

众人所知被“抛弃”者是有资格伤心的，他们也会被人用同情的眼光看待。但提出分手那位呢？试问会否伤心难过？一段恋情来到尾声，无论什么原因都好，难免都会有点悲的。光是两人的回忆就足以将你的心砸碎。如果你知道这感受，当身边有人提出分手时，你还会再他头上戴上“坏人”的罪名吗？如果你还责怪他，他不就是伤上加伤？我的劝告是：不要多管闲事！！！两个成人的事，就让两个成人解决。唯一可以接受的帮助是倾听他的心事（不多问）。You don’t have the right to judge as you your-self are not the person experiencing it and you would not like to be judge when it happens to you.

提出分手的理由可以千变万化但还是逃不过那主要原因：1）你已经不爱他 & 2）你还爱他但是无法维持下去。怎样都好，为什么我坚持分手留给男人提出？就如所提到的，你忍心让一个女人背着种种骂名吗？是男人死心的话题免提，当女友遇见更好的，深深祝福她，没本事维持一段感情也要好好提出分手。如果有必要扮演坏人的角色，好好的演下去。毕竟男人比女人能承担这种痛苦。

只要一方已经提出分手，另一方就应该乐观接受。允许自己伤心一阵子，过后还是要好好活下去。没有爱情是不会死的，再你尊敬一段感情的同时，请你不要把它当成氧气。

哈咯， 由于新作未写完。。。请先看看小弟的久作吧。。。不好意思哦

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