Searching for my next Kuruma~~~ 1st review (Great Wall M4)

For the past few months I had been rigorously collecting and researching on what the car market had to offer. Thanks to my rather unique preferences, the whole process is made easier as not many of them fits in to my list of consideration.

My preferred specifications:

·         Below RM 80K

·         Manual Transmission

·         Displacement of 1.6cc and below

·         4 or 5 doors

Okay, we are not here to argue about my preferences. Matching the above list of specification, I had found a few kuruma and they are:

·         Great Wall M4

·         Nissan Almera

·         KIA Picanto

·         Toyota Vios (J)

·         Proton Iriz

Why no Perodua? Let’s just say that it is not my cup of tea. My plan is to test drive all of them and finalise the chosen one to be purchase next year. As I had posted on my Facebook that I had tested the first in the list and below are my brief review on the car.

Disclaimer: the review stated below are based on my personal opinion thus does not represent any party. Praises and critics are made base on the test drive unit provided by either the manufacturer or retailer.

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GWM’s Great Wall M4

Apparently this model had been in Malaysia for a couple of years. The main attractive point had to be the price. Ranging in between RM50k-60k, undoubtedly the mini SUV had grab some attention. I am not going to explain in detail on the available versions, prices, and differences as you may refer them from the below flyer. The below review are based on three sections: exterior, interior, and drive experience.

(test drive unit: Great Wall M4 Comfort MT)

1. Exterior

If you were to notice, the M4 design looks familiar to other cars in the market, to me it is a design with the mixture of the front grill of Ford, head of a Toyota, and the back of Kia. Despite that, it still looks pretty decent (compare to some). I rated this mini SUV pros and cons as below:

            Pros:

·         Decent head and tail lights

·         Nice fitting 16 inch rims

·         Big side mirrors with indicators

·         Solid build with 6 choice of colours

·         Proper body ratio and size (very easy to get in)

·         4 disc brakes

Cons:

·   Heavy Doors

·       Gap between bonnet and windscreen is somehow a little too wide

·       Fuel cap panel does not come with holder and the cable attached must be proper adjust every time you close the panel as it might caught the dangling cord

·        Big fat backside that does not add value to the car’s function and design

·        The stand panel beside every door are covered with easily scratch plastic

·        The door open handle feels fragile (same goes for the roof rails).

  

2. Interior

Behind the wheels of the comfort version limiting my review to a certain accessories such as the touch screen navigation system, leather seats, and the rear mirror smart tag thingy. Nevertheless, the rest are covered as below:

     2.1 Seats and leg room:

The driver seat’s height is not adjustable as it only allows you to adjust forward and backward. I find the height really not suitable for short waist dude like me. Overheard from another fellow female test driver, she claims that she have problem with the height as her sight is reduced. Since my legs are not short, I pushed the seat nearly all the way back and to realise the rear seat leg room vanished.

With the cushion covered in plastic wrap and the floor covered with newspaper, there's no way to tell whether they are comfy but from my observation, it seems comfortable as the cushion comes with anti-heat netting but might raise a worries as it may tangle with clothing zips or other hard material object. The rear seat are not for long journey as they are nearly at 90 degree and not to mention the limited leg room.

     2.2 Dashboard and center console:

The meter layout on the dashboard is handsome. I personally have no complaint about it. The digital speedometer lit in dim orange is warp around nicely by two stripes of white lights that indicates the temperature and the fuel. Although it looks nice, it takes me some time to get used to the digital speedometer as I still prefer the traditional needle (exactly what the unit have for the rpm reading to the right).

The steering wheel is comfortable to hold but for a car that size, one can only wish for a larger one. The volume rocker button on the steering wheel is decent but when you press down the honk, you will realize that the front cover of the steering wheel is not well fix and align to the base thus creating plastic friction.

The buttons layout on the center console is a copycat from other reputable manufacturer, so it looks nicely arrange to me. Despite the good v shape layout with mini LCD screen to indicate the air-condition’s status, the buttons as predicted and reviewed are just way too flimsy. It is actually worse than my expectations. Only the two nob buttons are good to press (air condition and radio on off) the rest must be handle with care. (Same goes for the control panel on the driver’s door) the comfort version comes with a big LCD screen for the radio that I find it a plus point.

  

     2.3 Storage

The side pockets by the two front door is meaningless as my hand can’t fit in. The grove box in front of the passenger seat is pitifully small. Above the grove box comes a curve in space that I have no idea what would be place there, maybe it is meant for little McDonald toys / figurine as decoration? I ponder.

Despite having a big backside, the boot space without folding down the rear passenger’s seat is relatively small. It only fit a maximum of two medium luggage bags. I did not fold down those seats to reveal larger space as it is troublesome and defeats the original purpose. I forgotten to check whether there’s pocket behind the two front seats (will do it next time). P.s.~ there’s no place for your Rayban~~~

3. The Drive

Before taking off, I manage to spend some time in the unit with engine ignited. The sound of the engine remain calm and smooth. As I switch on the air conditioner, the rpm meter started to rev (normal). That is when I felt a minute vibration from the engine. Given the fact that the car is low on fuel, the vibration could be as innocent but I fear that it is from the improper fuel injection or distribution. (My current car produce such vibration in larger scale as it chocks for fuel). Realising the car is vibrating (you might not feel it) I decided to rev the car and to find out the paddles are not as responsive. That is when the engine roar it’s loudest.

Still before taking off, I manage adjust the side and rear view mirrors without problem. However the air-condition is leaving me head scratching. It is not easy to adjust all the dials (still not getting it done) the main concern is the sound of the fan of the air conditioner. At medium fan speed, it is way too loud! It overwhelmed the noise from the idling engine and the radio at soft. To see whether the radio’s voice can counter it, yes it does but the speakers are poor.

Eventually I took off after waited for about half an hour. With the radio and air condition switched to off, the sound of the engine is not bad at all. As a spirited driver, I started to play with the clutch paddles and gear stick. More disappointments brews. Knowing the clutch paddle can be adjusted to my preferred height, I am not going to comment on that. The annoying part is the gear stick as it is short to thrust forward for first, third and fifth gear and long to pull backward for the other three gears. That’s not all, the gear switching is not comfortable as they are too close to each other (Please refer to diagram below). With the gear shifting not making it any more comfortable, I could not really test out on the gear ratio but it appears to me that the ratio gap are close as I have to shift more often than my current car.

  

I took the unit (and the salesman) to a more remote area so that I could pick up some speed. The speed struggles to go up at first as the paddle’s respond is not sensitive enough for me. (Can get used to it) the unit became smooth to drive at about 40-60km/h. it is pretty decent to drive / cruise around town. (Given the fact that I had driven something worst). Since this car is not design to dash, I give that department a rest. The car balance well in corners but you can feel a slight tyre friction with sharper turns. The sales person told me it could be caused by the not proper inflated tyres, I have no idea. The brakes on the other hand are responsive and it does perform as well as any other cars with 4 disc brakes. No fuel test could be conducted as the test unit’s fuel and distance recorder is removed.

As a conclusion for the drive review, other than the annoying gear shifts mechanism and the seat height’s that force me to sit up straight, I managed to drive the unit around without much trouble. I wouldn’t say I enjoy driving the unit as much as my current car (could be my problem), but given the fact that it is really dirt cheap, I will still put it in my consideration list for now. Is it worth your time to even have a look at the car? Yes! Just remember that you do not get another car that size for that price and it is not ugly.

If you are planning or had tested the car, please provide some feedback as this will determine whether the problem lies in the test unit or my driving behavior. But keep one thing in mind, do not be put off by my findings above as I tend to scrutinise to details, some of the mentioned might not affect you. Have fun~~~

公主病

又一個睡不著的夜晚，剛從麥當勞回來的我回想起了兩件事。其一是無意間聽到一些年輕小伙子的對話，一個足以讓他們談了一小時有餘的話題：公主病。 （第二件事請留意另一片有關文章）

 

不久前有為朋友在面子書上放了有關於此話題中國某節目，事情不是很嚴重而有了好的結局。我想了很久，到底什麼是公主病？病患者都帶著什麼病兆？怎樣才算是患上了此病？來源呢？

 

經過一番思考（有點吃飽太得空的感覺）有了以下的結論：

問題一：什麼是公主病？根據理解，凡是被寵壞的女人談戀愛時顯得自私而採用了不理智的方法去戀愛者都有此病。

問題二：來源？

可能性有幾種：

1．從小嬌生慣養而長大了和社會有代溝（往往與家庭和環境灌輸的概念有關）。

2．不了解愛情​​運作方式而踏入了（初戀）。

 

3．太多幻想和期望（大約是電視劇的惡作劇吧）。

4．被男友寵壞了。

5．完美主義者 （常以他人做比較）。

6．將以上所提到的都混在一起。

愛情佔有了女人一生中的多少是男人無法理解的。從小很多小女孩都希望自己是個漂亮的公主而希望某日王子會騎著白馬到來。到了青春期，女孩接觸了世界而對愛情有了幻想和期望。從小要風得風的小女孩和從小什麼都得不到的女孩都希望從愛情上得到安全感，無論是物質上或心靈上，有誰不希望自己的另一半能滿足自己的每一個慾望？

 

 

初戀時期，相信每個人都上了寶貴的一課。有的醒覺了，有的成熟了。至於那些沉睡於夢幻的公主呢？有的仍然不停的尋找王子，有的還期望另一半化身王子。當然還有一些真的遇見王子了，繼續被那傻乎乎的王子寵著。當然我所提到所謂的“期望”和“寵”是非凡的。

 

很多男人都很怕自己的另一半患上此病，但是往往是自己把這病菌注入自己的女伴。有些人說只要訓練好自己的女人就不會患病，也有人說女人是拿來寵的。我再次告訴大家，女人是拿來愛的，寵物是拿來寵的，別把自己的女人當狗狗貓貓了好吧？別等到把她寵壞了，無能為力了，她說你變了，你說你累了，鬧翻了才來後悔。

 

在我的世界裡其實並沒有什麼所謂的公主病，這些女人只不過是一些缺乏安全感的人。只要你給予她最基本的愛那就夠了。若有必要，請喚醒她，提醒她這段感情的重點在哪裡。沒有了愛再多的物質與陪伴都是無謂的。學習享受一段感情，放下所有其他無謂的，這就是愛。

 

如果男人非相信此病存在不可，那不就代表世界上也有王子病？世界是圓的，換個方式去想的話，所謂的公主病其實就是男人無能女人無知？愛等於了解，別隨便投入，否則後果自負。

Foodiot

Not long ago while I was having lunch with my friends, a young female appeared beside me from nowhere to stop me from digging in to my food. She said that my food looks interesting and would like to snap a picture of it. The conversation (translated from Chinese) as below:
Lady: WAIT! Don’t eat first, I would like to snap a pic of your food.

Arthur: would you like me to hold the dish up?

Lady: No, I only want to take a picture of your food but not you.

Arthur: so you are going to take a picture of my food without me being in it huh.

Lady: Yes, I wanted to post on my Facebook. With you in it, viewers might misunderstand that you are my friend (snapping away without my approval).

Arthur: so you decided to befriend my food instead. By the way, my name is Arthur and nice to meet you and are you one of those food reviewers?

Lady: I am here to take picture only.

Arthur:  Hmm, a tourist from another state huh?

Lady: No, from where you get that idea? Just because I have a DSLR in my hand doesn’t mean that I am not from local.

Arthur: oh okay, my bad, so can I assume that you like to collect food photos?

Lady: why you ask so much?

Arthur: just curious of why would a local snapping tons of picture of a local dish.

Lady: is that against the law?

Arthur: of course not, is just rather rude of you to do it even without my permission and if you may, kindly please allow me to eat now as I am very hungry.

Lady: you are not the chef, I don’t have to ask for your permission.

Arthur: but I am paying for the food, that makes me the owner of the food and you are breaching my privacy now, and when you are done, please walk away before this gets any uglier (unbelievably that my face still have a smile on it).

Friend A: we are kind of in a discussion, so when you are done, please allow us to carry on.

Lady: ok (walk away)

 

After that weird conversation, I literally scratched my head, a lady just befriended my food and refuse to talk nicely to a human. Questions of the day:

1.       Why would a local take picture of a local dish?

2.       Can’t she afford a RM5.00 dish?

3.       Isn’t it easier to snap with a phone camera (she had a smart phone)?

4.       Why would a local carry a heavy DSLR everywhere?

5.       Does my food have a fan page in Facebook?

Am I the only curious one? Why would people snap and share their every meal on social media? It will be all different if that meal were:

1.       Taken by tourist

2.       You made it (something special)

3.       Specially decorated for an event

4.       Mean something to you

5.       Being review

6.       Comes with a hefty price tag

If this is a new culture, I think I will suggest to restaurants that they should have photo taking service or to have food photos to social media uploading service. Okay, before you slap me in the face, I do take picture of my food as well but I am sure that it fit the above reasons.

What do you think? Are you one of them?

To love you but not to understand you?

A female friend of mine once told me that when comes to relationship management, guys should not attempt to understand their female partner but to love them whole hearted will do. Well I must admit that I am not a person that always gave fast respond answers as at that moment, any feedback from me might trigger any offensive response (please refer to another article of mine by the title of pride management). Thus at that moment, all I can do is to nod my head silently and reply with a smile. I’ve been doing some thinking lately and the below written should be my best feedback to the related issue.

I know there are plenty of authors had mentioned that how males and females reacted when comes to handling relationship, in any language and culture, males and females are always classified as two different species. Well, not biologically but mentally. I am not thoroughly agree with most of the so called research conducted between men and women but at times we have to just blame it on the culture.

Before I sway further away, let’s get back to the topic: Understanding a female. That is not something new I guess, but it is really impossible for guys to figure a girl out when comes to relationship? (Ok, found guilty of narrowing down the topic but I really need to or else this article will become a freaking thesis about women). In the past I had plenty of friends came to me for some advice on this matter, sounds weird but don’t ask why they approached me, I have no idea as well. The solution will always be the same – Profiling. It is the best way for guys to understand girls if that particular guy really care about their female partner.

A person who knows me well knew that I profile nearly everyone. That is the best way to enter anyone’s life. Well, everyone actually does it, the only difference is between whether you do it consciously or unconsciously (please refer to article: profiling). So is female not to be understood? My answer is a sweet NO. Guys if you are reading this and felt relief, seriously refer to some profiling method I reckon in another article. Wait, I have to put this in capital wordings: FEMALE ARE MEANT TO BE UNDERSTOOD AFTERALL, YAY. (If you are wondering whether had I lost my mind, don’t worry, I had not!)

Bear with me for a while, let’s make things simple by breaking down. Can you even love someone without basic understanding? Let’s test all your senses and hope there’s not a case of malfunction. For a man, it always starts with sight. Once your brain registers an image of her, it will automatically ping you that whether this girl is your “type”. Once approved (within seconds), a dude will start to calculate a million possibilities about the girl (stereotyping is not healthy for you). On first level, that my friend is not an understanding yet as you had not find out the truth about her.

So you walk across and introduce your-self or you asked around, now that is trying to understand (basic profiling) and you are likely to get a set of answers (till you get those answers only you are certified with basic understanding). After using your bunny ears, the most common thing that you will do is to exchange information, typical man huh. From there, it tells us one thing which is even before starting a relationship, the upmost common understanding between both parties must be there to spark a fire (well let’s not talk about the case of she is not that in to you). Where had it gone wrong after being together?

To be very honest, love it or hate it, it is always the case of either the male stop trying or the female start asking for more (or both at the same time). In this situation, the question is no longer “do you understand me?” but “are you tired of me?” or “had you lost interest in me?” etc. A lot of girls always complaint that their partners do not understand them, in some case yes, but most of the time, that is a big NO. It’s nearly impossible for anyone to love someone or something without further understanding unless he or she is gifted in a way or blinded in another way.

Look at your shopping patterns, okay, look at the things you bought that costs you at least half of your earnings and above, from something as simple as your smart phone to a car (or even an apartment). Had you not consider the specs or criteria before throwing out the cash? It proves that we have to understand before we fell deeper for it. Let’s not compare with items, it can be very offensive to some. But come to think of it, you girls dare to absorb a guy that merely understands you as your life partner? I don’t think so. Conclusion: when guys said that they “don’t understand”, it is most likely they don’t want to further understand due to any reason (the cause can be from either party).

So when a girl ask a guy not to understand her, to me is a joke, are you asking me not to further develop interest on you or are you trying to hide something from me? From my personal opinion, to love means to understand. You can’t tell me who and what to love. If I don’t like Chihuahua (I really don’t like them) means I don’t like Chihuahua, why? Because I don’t understand how to shut them up and why are they always so loud. On the other hand, if I said I like to play tennis (I do play tennis), that means I like it as I understand how the game works. I can’t be saying that I like it when I don’t even know how to hold my racket right?

So why does female said such a sentence? To me, very simple, you are asking for one or more of the below stated:

1. Seeking for attention (more time together)
2. Pride protection (no discussion no argument)
3. Money spent on you instead of another person (including the guy’s mother)
4. Etc. (go figure!!!)

To all the girls that are reading this, never ever said that to a guy (well, at least to me) you are merely asking for trouble or a fight. It is equivalent as asking me to think without my brains. Do not attempt to use this for the above stated. It will only make your male partners lose their hair due to over scratching. Guys, never say that girls are not meant to be understood. Same theory applies.

(I have a few related articles coming up to support my theory, if you like to view them, do let me know, I will post it up)

Hello~~~

It’s been awhile since I last updated my blog, if you are reading this, thank you very much for visiting. To be honest I have no idea on what to write but yet I strongly have the desire to write. Let’s start with some interesting topics:

For my Family:
• I can’t wait to see you all in the coming Christmas celebration, and phew! What a relieve that we had finalized the celebration location. I had started to written down some crazy ideas that hopefully not to complicated or costly to prepare. I might come up with some surprise. Do feel free to provide more ideas ya 

• For those of you that are going to HK, please remember that no souvenirs are required. Enjoy be safe and have a great time ya  oh ya, snap more photos please 

• For my brother who are going to join me for Jacky Cheung concert, I will contact you a week before travelling to KL. Excited aren’t you? 

• A little update of my side of story: I am doing ok but kinda miss home. Recently had written down some plans for my own future, share with you all when meet up
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For my Friends:
• For those who I have no time to meet up recently, I sincerely apologize and will eventually make it up to you.

• For my Tennis buddies, due to the recent raining season, we had not been really having fun. But I assure you that the session will go on as usual, and I strongly suggest that you all bring friends to try the sports. Our group are getting smaller and smaller… thanks in advance ya 

• To those who are recently indulged in Love River, I congratulate you and wish you all happily ever after. (now that you all are occupied… I assume that I can see you lesser then usual?>>> just kidding)

• Those that recently had “sharing” session with me, feel free to share anything and be more open up in the future sessions. If my ideas are not working or my words of motivations are not helping, please come back to me as I am learning too. I hope you all found happiness as well 
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For my Colleagues:
• We are here for a reason, no matter what reasons, remember to be happy and stress free 
• Office politics is not healthy for you!!! Be kind

Quote of the day:
• Everything is perfect when you are happy


Signing off~~~@rt Cafe

Pointing Fingers

I had crated this picture to remind everyone not to point fingers at anyone...

- no matter which finger you are pointing... is rude...

- When you pointed one finger out, you have 4 fingers pointing at your-self.

- We are not here to judge anyone... accept them for who they are.

- Only say what need to be said... the rest, keep it...

- Middle Finger: if you are a girl and you show your middle fingers, i think is reasonable but if you are a guy... i would say no... why? simple... guys are born with that thing we called penis... if you really wanna to show... i dare you take of your pants and show it... be a real dick... or ass hole... unless you don't have one...

Be Strong Japan

We are here with you - one world one nation one love

八爪比一比

八爪魚常常和犀牛在周末時打桌球，桌球店裡常常會播放一些老歌。有一次聽見一曲“愛你無條件”的閩南歌，犀牛頓時說那歌詞很不現實。他說愛一個人那有可能沒有任何條件。



八爪魚當時沒有理會犀牛的這一番話，直到回家以後才想了想。

不久前八爪魚爸爸曾經對八爪魚說過一個故事：天使與魔鬼之賭

一個風和日麗的早晨（忘記了故事如何開始而自己亂篇的），魔鬼心血來潮和天使打賭來分高低。魔鬼對天使說：你代表著愛而我代表著恨，我們到地球去玩一玩。看看誰能給人類最多影響，若你能讓多數人心中充滿愛心就算你贏，相反若我能讓多數人感覺到恨就我勝利。天使點了點頭答應了，就這樣天使和魔鬼開始了這場賭注。



天使教導人類散發愛心受到眾人所愛，此刻魔鬼要引發人類的怨恨受到阻礙。無緣無故的為什麼心中要有恨呢？魔鬼眼見自己就快輸了，趕緊動動腦筋反敗為勝。最終魔鬼使出了高招，那就是教導人類假的愛，也就是有分類，有條件，和自私的愛。分開了種族，分開了膚色。假的愛成功帶來了恨。

這場天使與魔鬼之賭還未分出勝負，請你看看身邊的人和自己，也請你看看這世界，你認為天使會贏還是魔鬼已經勝了？

其實愛本來就沒有任何條件與約束。不知從何時開始，人類逐漸在愛的身上添加了負擔。這些負擔都是人類所創造的。例子：時間，金錢，潮流，文化……



就這樣，我們的愛就已經不純真，也就是受到條件約束的愛。八爪魚在此呼喚大家拋開抱負去愛每一個人。無論是家人，情人，朋友或陌生人，每一個人都值得愛。

嘗試回歸最原點，感受一下最純真的愛。領悟解脫的滋味，因為你是完美。

Conditional love = Hate
Pure love can’t be divide but it multiply.
You know what I’m saying?

八爪魚魔鏡

八爪魚深深向發明鏡子的人致敬。 。 。

這偉大的發明是人類的福氣，他讓我們看見自己啦！ ！ ！



放心，八爪魚不是在教你如何照鏡也不是叫你回家照鏡子（更不是來賣鏡子）。


八爪魚也如大家常常照鏡子，除了梳洗以外也用它來練習笑容。



八爪魚最近照鏡子都會愣著，呆了一段時間才捨得離開，不知道大家是否也會對著鏡子沉思？


不久前八爪魚從鏡子領悟了一個人生哲理，就把它命名為（Octopus Theory 之Human's inner Mirror ）吧。


八爪魚發現很多人往往活得像一片鏡子。在溝通方面我們經常處於被動狀況。我們習慣了等待別人先對自己行動後才有所行動。就像鏡子，永遠都是依照著他人的行動而反應。最簡單的例子：一聲打招呼或一個微笑。



一般人往往渴望得到別人的愛戴，渴望有人對自己好，但總是無所行動的等待。到最終放棄等待時才給自己一個最糟的
藉口：世界上沒有好人。 。 。




如果你已經被八爪魚說中了，就請你好好對著鏡子仔細想想。是不是應該換個角色了？


八爪魚認為萬事都從自我開始。主動著的立場永遠比被動著好。要他人對你好，你也應該先對人好吧？


愛一個人，無論是家人，情人，或友人，請你大聲把真心說出來。這能讓大家感覺到你的愛心之於也能讓大家安心還你
更多愛心。



害羞的朋友們可以從最基本開始，嘗試對陌生人打招呼或微笑。這不只能讓他人感到高興，也能讓自己的自信心上升。

如果能養成這個習慣，相信我，你的世界將會更美好。


別再當鏡子了，拿出你的愛心來讓世界更美好吧！

《亂七八“爪”》

哈咯！！！

我是愛爾特咖啡館的創辦人，首先要謝謝您點擊此圖。



小弟這次化身八爪魚和大家分享一些有趣的東東。

八爪魚將會帶大家進入《亂七八“爪”》的世界裡走走，

有興趣的朋友請按個“贊”哦。

(Estimate launching date: March 2011)

Can you hear it?

The time now is 2:45am, approximately twenty four hours ago, I asked my self a question that I couldn’t find any answers. Not even close in getting one. Ok… maybe I was too tired and my brain was trying to signal me to rest by asking a tricky question, but the same question pops out 24 hours later. It is as annoying as an alarm clock.

What is the question?

Try answering this: can you hear what your mind and soul trying to tell you through your heart?

Well I ask you to try, not with your conscious but your heart. Why not give it a try? But do try not to fall asleep.

February’s weather is cruel. It is one of the hottest months. Through the ailing street light, all I see is that there are totally no movements out side the window. Everything looks so still, like a painting. That could only mean one thing – no wind at all. (That’s the reason I’m still awake in this odd time of the day)

I remove my attention from the heat by playing some music softly and of course my 2 fans at full throttle. Well… I’ve solved two major problems that cause this insomnia - the heat and the silent.

WHY AM I STILL AWAKE!? – The same question come knocking again. Oh dear, this is really annoying.

The time now is 3:30am. I turn off the music and sit on my bed with my legs cross. After a sip of water, I close my eyes and start to listen. All I hear now are physical noises that we hardly notice in daytime. (Clock, fan, and lamp)

After 15 minutes of listening, all physical noises become softer and later vanish. Now the only thing I hear is my own heart beat. I’m still awake but seems like I’m in another dimension. The truth is I am focusing too much and it is numbing my senses.

Now every pulse of heart beat is louder and heavier. Image started to generate out of no where, some are flash backs from the past and others are the future that I projected. Like a story line with music beat, I can see everything clearly now.

It was never about the question as the question is only a method. I’m happy with the images and will manifest accordingly. Not the first time I put my self in this situation. I wish whoever read this little message I wrote have a wonderful experience doing it.

The time now is 4:30am and I’m very sleepy… Goodnight and sweet dreams

Human creations - The Three “T” (Extracted from my up coming new book)

Call it a theory or even a philosophy, I believe it is worth the sharing. This topic had come across my mind for quite sometime and I finally putting into words. For those who often join me for my “sharing session” probably already have a clue and for those who are still “a deer with no eye”, you are most welcome to read and comment on this.

There are tons of human creations out there and I had chosen the three “T” which stands for Time, trends and traditions. Why them? No special reasons but they sounds catchy and very much debatable.

Let’s start with – Time

What is the first thing that pops up in your mind when I ask you what on earth is TIME? a clock? a bunch of numbers that sums up your life time? perhaps your age? Well, to me, time does not exist! I know it sounds absurd but do let me explain.

Thanks to our beloved ancestor who creates symbols that looks like: “I II III IV V”. Yup, human discovered how to count via NUMBERS. From then till now, human calculates everything from branches on a tree to cells in human body. Somewhere between there, along came a thing we call TIME. If I were to remove numbers in this very vortex, do you think time still exist?

As we grow up, we see more and more numbers. Don’t get too exited now, I’m not talking about Lotto numbers. What do they really mean to you? I know they keep you organize at some point but what are they? What do I think about them? Simple, they are just bunch of limitations and barriers. Again do let me emphasize that I had not lost my mind and do let me point out.

We are being “counted” since we are proven alive in our mommy’s tummy (no matter it was a planned birth or accident, you are being counted). In the next coming years, we learned how to count and so we started counting down our life.

From the ancient to the very current, scientist have come out with tons of statistics, we have accurate data that safe lives and predictions that barely just rough calculations. Let’s come back to our topic – Time. We all knows that time came from the calculation of earth spinning it-self a full round equals a day and from there, divide further to get hours, minutes and seconds.

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to tell you how does the average age statistic works, for your convenience, they even split out by gender (how kind of them). This is when my first limitation example comes in. If you were to follow the timing prediction by scientist, you are actually giving direct orders to your body that it must grow on specific calculated years and deceased in the so called average years.

Please bear in mind that your body listens only to the sole master – YOU!

No doctor in this world can tell you exactly how your brain works, but they can brain wash you with tons of theories and statistics. When you start to believe, trust me, you are in deep trouble. Please respect the intelligence of your body as it is much more complex and advance then you think.

You want science? I give you science. Remember the chicken story? It was well tested by switching the lights off and on every six hours to replace the original twelve hours sun light, it actually deceives the chickens and guess what, their grow-up speed was doubled. Just in case chickens are not convincing enough, try do a simple test, try ask everyone around you their sleeping hours per day. Doctor suggested an eight hours sleep for a full grown adult, but how many of us actually need to “charge” 6 - 8 hours per-day? (I only sleep 4-5 hours per-day and it last me for at least 16 hours)

The most unfair thing that ever happened by following time is – it creates stupidity. Again, do let me explain.

Everyone’s brain is different, some fast, some not so fast. Sadly we were not accessed by brain speed but time. We were forced to follow the set time to do certain things like education, work and even retirement. All thanks to the person (god knows who’s brilliance idea) who came out with statistics suggesting we should for example get in to primary at age seven and retired at the age of fifty five. They even tell you when to get pregnant.

Imagine this, if my brain works slower or requires longer period for maturity, I ultimately can’t coup with the so called “average” time you set. I was then tag “stupid” and kick to the last class, that already changes my future. Let’s say I survive education and start working, what happened when I needed longer time to learn up task? Yup, I was fired. As my age catches up, I was force to retired at fifty five. That is like forcing an “average” person in to early retirement. The above mentioned example can go vice versa (that is even worst – stopping a genius to develop – Ouch!).

Get my point of view? Still think time exist and willing to calculate your-self to your last breath?

(the conclusion written is for all three “T”, it will not be posted now)

Written By: Arthur Ng

同事兼情侣 (summarised for a friend)

很多人都口口声声反对在自己上班的地方谈恋爱但又偏偏让它发生了。其实这状况是常见的。原因很简单，我们平均一个星期里花了四十个小时再上班，扣除了睡眠和周末，我们大部分醒着的时间都花再办公室。日见相对下擦出感情有什么稀奇？一般打工人士见同事比见家人和朋友的时间是还要长的，这是因放工回家后只剩下区区那几个“醒着”的小时。在这情况下，试问又有多少时间好让你在办公室以外认识或结交伴侣。算一算吧。

大多数的上司都反对下属这样做但却无法阻止。一谈到这话题，上司们都会有同样的想法：1）影响工作表现和效率， 2）两人同伙搞反派。当然也有些上司是不反对的，但是却没有一个会鼓励。说真的，有多少人能公私分明或顾全双方利益。是很难怪上司们有这种负面的看法。

以下是一般人搞办公室恋情所面对的优点和缺点：

优点 – 如以上所提到，在一起上班能加长见面的时间，感情里多了更多了解。这是因为两人一起面对私事之余也一同解决公事。一起经历上班的一切也能让彼此拥有一定的安全感（甚至更能专心干活）。一起上班的情侣一定会一同上路（开车或搭公车）和一同用餐，这不但省钱，其实还挺浪漫的 (^.^) 。这样一来伴侣可以更加深入了解自己并与其分享一切。挺好的，挺好的。

缺点 – 也如以上所提的，一旦被上司发现就会出现状况。上司不看好之余还有可能会惹到身边的同事眼红或“远离”。一起上班也有可能会导致更多压力，没信心者往往都会怕自己在对方眼里表现不够好而情绪紧张。试问这样的情况下又怎能舒舒服服的工作呢 (>.<) 。下一个论点（也就是你一早想到的）非它莫属，对了！就是少了很多自由或私人空间。一起经历多了也等于更加了解了也等于更多话题可吵了。当然还有很多缺点如：一人错两人担，情人变成业绩对手等等。。。

小弟的看法？。。。

两个人有了感觉并谈恋爱是不受一切（环境，时间等等）压制的。更何况现在所说到的是办公室而已，有什么大不了！我本人不会反对也不会支持，因为最终的要点还是回到两个人对感情的处理方式。有心在一起的话，以上所提到的缺点更本就不成立，相反的，一开始就不看好，优点随时变成了缺点。到了最后通通都是借口。若是真的不幸惨遭毒手，可以选择转公司。只要有心，万事都是可以处理的。

分手留给男人说

说到分手这每一个人都不想谈的话题时，无论你是男或女，是不是看到了一个坏男人的画面？那是真常的，毕竟数千年来都是男辜负女的多于女辜负男。其实什么是分手？告诉对方不爱了就能真正结束一段感情吗？曾听某些人所过分手很简单，好比家常便饭；也听过朋友分手时有多痛苦，就像电视剧里闹生闹死般。什么是分手？我的解释是：了结一段感情并推翻当年的山盟海誓，然后把一切变成一段收在脑里某个角落的回忆。

提出分手者有罪吗？在这个可悲的亚洲里，无论国家多么先进发达，亚洲人的思想还是古老落后的。更可悲的是我们还引以为荣。我们已经把分手看成抛弃，无论是男方还是女方，只要是提出分手就戴上了有如抛妻弃子的“罪名”。不被看好不要紧，还要被众人辱骂。本来是两个人的事情，搞不好变成了两个世界的问题。莫名其妙！！！放下这套思想仔细想想，其实提出分手是没有罪的。不爱了放手好比不爱了还要死死纠缠好吧。很多人不敢提出分手是怕对方受伤害，也怕对方承受不起做傻事。倒过来想想，到头来不是再制造更大的伤害吗？反而我本人觉得阻止对方预见更好的伴侣才是罪大恶极。

众人所知被“抛弃”者是有资格伤心的，他们也会被人用同情的眼光看待。但提出分手那位呢？试问会否伤心难过？一段恋情来到尾声，无论什么原因都好，难免都会有点悲的。光是两人的回忆就足以将你的心砸碎。如果你知道这感受，当身边有人提出分手时，你还会再他头上戴上“坏人”的罪名吗？如果你还责怪他，他不就是伤上加伤？我的劝告是：不要多管闲事！！！两个成人的事，就让两个成人解决。唯一可以接受的帮助是倾听他的心事（不多问）。You don’t have the right to judge as you your-self are not the person experiencing it and you would not like to be judge when it happens to you.

提出分手的理由可以千变万化但还是逃不过那主要原因：1）你已经不爱他 & 2）你还爱他但是无法维持下去。怎样都好，为什么我坚持分手留给男人提出？就如所提到的，你忍心让一个女人背着种种骂名吗？是男人死心的话题免提，当女友遇见更好的，深深祝福她，没本事维持一段感情也要好好提出分手。如果有必要扮演坏人的角色，好好的演下去。毕竟男人比女人能承担这种痛苦。

只要一方已经提出分手，另一方就应该乐观接受。允许自己伤心一阵子，过后还是要好好活下去。没有爱情是不会死的，再你尊敬一段感情的同时，请你不要把它当成氧气。

哈咯， 由于新作未写完。。。请先看看小弟的久作吧。。。不好意思哦

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The Cafe of Love

For those who don't know about this, I'm actually collecting real life love story for my (long awaited) book.

The whole idea is to bring up the spark for those who are eager to get in to a relationship and to prep them up for what are they going to face.

I've currently compiled about 5 interesting love story. If you are willing to share your love story, i will conduct a private interview session with you. (I need about 15 more true story)

The story will be in English and Chinese. Please do not worry as i won't reveal your name :)

one more thing... this is a voluntary thingy (you won't get paid) but i will treat you nice nice coffee or even Dinner :)

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